Family bonding during covid-19 quarantine should be our ultimate goal during this new reality for all families.
Quarantining at home besides being a necessary action to take to protect our self and our family is also a challenging experience and our patience will be pushed to the limits.
Home isolation 24/7 with the same people, even if they are your family and you are closer to the ones you love, causes a lot of tension and stress. Actually it can prove to be a ticking timebomb.
People need to homeschool their children while working from home, they face financial uncertainty and stress, while others are already been laid off.
Also not being able to get out of the house, practice a hobby that you like, relax with friends and enjoy some time in nature, well it can be so frustrating and even too much to handle for some people.
For parents, things are even harder. Children being locked up in the house, constantly looking for ways to fill their time, and express their unlimited energy!
They get annoyed with the slightest thing, get involved in quarrels with their siblings and easily get out of control.With this additional pressure, it’s understandable that you’ll lose it more often with your children. Who wouldn’t?
I’ve even heart parents praying to go back to work as they are fed up with their kids whining all the time! Does this sound familiar? For most parent it sure does! So how can one deal with this situation and even make it work positively for strengthening the family bond?
To be able to get through covid-19 quarantine without loosing one’s mind, a family should have strong connections , rules to follow and routines to organize daily life. Quarantine is a great opportunity to value our family relationships and work towards improving our bond.
But how will this be done?
Spend as much quality bonding time as you can with your children
Engage in family bonding activities
This does not mean working while you are with your children or checking at your cell phone all the time! You just have to be totally focused to your children, your play and give them your full attention.
Engage them in family activities you all enjoy. Find creative ways to spend time with your loved ones. Make your time together count. I have amazing bonding ideas on the freebie I prepared for you!
Assign chores and praise your children for doing them:
This is the time for children to take on tasks and learn the concept of mutual assistance and responsibility. Give everyone a job they can do based on their age and allow them to complete it as best as they can. One can fold clothes, another can make the beds, wash dishes, and so on.
Explain to your children the importance of everybody helping to keep our house clean so that mom could have more time to play and not spending all day cleaning!
Enjoy time in nature
If it’s possible, go for a walk in nature. Take a walk and breathe fresh air. It will help everyone calm down and release some of their energy. Nature’s healing power is so important to coming closer with the ones we love.
Enjoy the most relaxed pace of our lives due to covid-19 quarantine
When will you again have the opportunity to wake up in peace and not go crazy in the morning trying to get everybody ready for work and school? Relax and enjoy your home, strengthen your family bond more than ever and use your free time to come closer to your loved ones.
Give your children the attention they deserve!
Families who share a strong bond can cope better with difficulties. So make sure you build positive relationships with your children by giving them positive attention.
Provide emotional security
Show love and affection, be caring. Emotional security is one of the most important things you can provide your children. Show affection, understanding and tenderness. Prove to them that your love is unconditional.
Show physical affection as well:
Don’t be afraid of physical contact and affection. Hug your children often. Don’t worry, they don’t get spoiled this way. They are strengthened emotionally and feel love and security. A mom’s hug lasts long after she lets go.
Listen to them carefully:
Listen carefully to what they want to tell you. Pay attention and evaluate. Be actively involved in the discussion as this way you make them feel important.
Answer their questions:
Thousands of questions that can drive you crazy! This is the way they discover the world around them, it’s all so new. Make sure you give honest and convincing answers no matter how irrelevant or difficult the question may seem to you.
Let them enjoy their bath and play:
Bathing is a sacred ritual. Children enjoy playing with water and bubbles so allow time and let them enjoy it. The process of bathing relaxes children and during bath time they may reveal their deepest thoughts and feelings!
Help them with their school work:
Homeschooling your children is a whole chapter in itself and if you don’t deal with it positively it can drive you crazy. Children need help and reward. Teach them to organize their study properly and complete their tasks at a set time so that there is time left for play and family bonding moments.
Let everyone be themselves and feel good about it. Allow your children to express themselves freely and don’t judge them constantly for their choices. Remember that each child carries their own personality and cannot fulfill our dreams and desires.
Set fair rules and routines
For a family to function properly, we must set rules and specific routines that should be followed consistently. Here are some ideas:
Waiting until people have finished speaking: We don’t interrupt when someone else is talking. We wait for them to finish and then we may say what we want.
We don’t hurt anyone’s feelings: We don’t judge others and we don’t say offensive words that we know will upset and hurt others.
We don’t hurt anyone’s body: By no means do we use violence. No matter how angry we are, we take the time to calm down and then we resolve our differences through dialogue. If necessary, we ask our parents to help resolve a dispute.
We ask permission to borrow other people’s belongings: We don’t take other people’s things without asking them. We always knock the door before entering a room and if we need something, we ask permission before borrowing it.
Establish family bonding routines: We determine routines that strengthen our relationships as a family. For example, we arrange to eat the last meal of the day together and everyone can share the best and the worst that happened to them during the day. Or every afternoon we take a long walk in the park, every night we read a bedtime story etc.
Pick-up after yourself: We make it clear that everyone should pick up their clutter. We explain to our children what we want from them by giving clear instructions. For example I put my plate in the sink, I put dirty clothes in the laundry basket, I collect my toys, etc.
Practice hygiene routines: Now more than ever it is very important to apply hygiene routines. We wash our hands before eating anything, brushing our teeth after every meal, bathe every night, wear clean clothes, etc.
Limit screen time – embrace quality time activities: Reduce time children spend in front of screens as much as possible. We set an hour of the day they can use screens and fill rest of the day with family bonding activities.
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Use your manners, say thank you please, you’re welcome: We behave properly. We always say thank you and please, we greet when we arrive at a place, we are polite etc.
Play fair: We always play honestly and fairly. We don’t try to deceive others or play dirty. We use our abilities and when necessary we help the weakest.
Connect with others
Just because we’re quarantining, this doesn’t mean we’re loosing contact with loved ones and friends. Technology allows us to be close even if we are far away.
Video Calls: Communicate via video calling with grandparents and children’s friends. This way they will see each other and the feeling of isolation will decrease.
Conference call: If you are still not excited by the idea of the camera, you can have conference call and exchange your news with friends and family.
Write a letter, a beautiful card or prepare a nice package and send it to a loved one you have missed.
If you know someone who can’t do their grocery, take on this job. Record what needs to be done, do the shopping and leave it outside their door.
Create a group on social media and share photos from your day. See how spent their day. It will be like being a part of their lives.
Control family expenses
To reduce financial stress and enjoy our family bonding during this covid-19 quarantine, we try to control our expenses.
Cook your meals and be less dependent on getting cooked meals delivered from restaurants. Spend creative time in the kitchen, experiment with recipes and avoid delivery during this time.
Some of the food can even be frozen to be consumed later in the week. Cook large quantities and freeze some for another day so you don’t have to cook.
Cancel subscriptions and memberships. Examine all subscriptions and stop everything you haven’t used for 3 months or more you don’t really need it!
Check refund options for planned trips and activities. If you have scheduled activities or trips that have been canceled due to covid-19 pandemic, consider claiming your money back.
Get a savings pot! Save all money that you’d pay for commute, restaurants, hairdresser, pubs etc Take a savings pot and put in all the money you ‘d spend every week in restaurants, cafes and hobbies. For sure you’ll collect a large amount of money and you ‘ll really be amazed of how much money is spent without calculating it.
How are you dealing with this covid-19 quarantine time? Did you find new ways to connect with your family and strengthen your bond? Share with me in the comments below.
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